In my previous post “In Love with “Love”” I spoke briefly on the topic when I stopped dating for a year. After a year I didn’t just hop back on the band wagon. It was still a struggle for me. I didn’t find a solution of course if I did I wouldn’t be single. What I did find was what I wanted and what I want to give and understanding they are two completely different things.
A few days ago I was listening to the radio and someone called and asked for advice and the answer that was given was so true. The advice was “treat him how he needs to be treated not how you want to be treated”. We are so wrapped up on what we want and how we want it, we think the other person want the same. We have to open our hearts and minds to understand them. For example something’s to keep me happy in a relationship are food, time, and compliments. Just because I like to cook I’m going to cook for my man I assume he will love it and want it. That’s not always true. If I cook food he’s going to eat it regardless if it me took 5 minutes or the whole day to make it. So doing that for him might not make him happy in the relationship just content. Once we find out what the other person is looking for makes the relationship easier. I just haven’t found a man that takes the time to want to figure me out. They’re just doing the things they normally do in the past. Which results in failure in opening their hearts because their doing the opposite by closing it off and not stepping out of the norm.
Q: When was the last time you did something different for your significant other?
Q: Are you happy doing the same things over and over?
Q: What about for the next 20 years?
Step out and do something else. Why stay comfortable when your relationship could feel like an adventure to explore another part of your other half. Don’t be content be happy.
Are you enjoying the “Loveless Series” so far? If so don’t forget the like this post. Next week the topic will be “Trusting God and wondering if love is a part of my timeline”.
Sincerely, Courtney Renee