Hi Aspirers! This week is suppose to be a new vlog but looking back at the footage I didn’t like any of it. If I didn’t like it I knew wouldn’t. I didn’t want to put something out just because it’s Tuesday, but what I do want to post will be more of a call to action.
You don’t have to wait until Tuesday to see what’s new, because for the other days of the week you’re missing out. If you haven’t already followed me on these platforms to see what I’m up to on a daily basis, here you go.
Hi Aspirers, it’s been a rough year. To be honest, a lot of us have had rough YEARS! How do you find joy or happiness when there’s so much negativity going on? How are you justifying your happiness? Are you chasing it? How do you hold on to happiness once you’ve found it? What will happen if you lose it?
Other than love we are wanting to find happiness. The definition of being happy is feeling or showing pleasure or contentment. It’s like taking a bite of your favorite dessert. The flavor explodes in your mouth. That taste brings back the feeling when you first tried this dessert. It’s more than just that moment. It’ll stick with you.
For you to be happy, you need to define what is happiness means to you. Happiness is more than just that generic definition. Sometimes we can’t put our feelings into words. It’s just the state of being present at that moment in time.
Take some time and think about how you define your happiness. If you are having some trouble here are some ways.
Recall memories that put a smile on your face.
Look back at your achievements. You’ve come this far.
Enjoy things as is not what it could be. If you focus on things that aren’t then you won’t see the value of it.
Valuing yourself. How you look at yourself is a big factor in your feelings.
Value your relationships with your family, friends, and colleagues. Most of the time we are spending time with others. We sometimes take these relationships for granted and miss out on what we get out of them.
Surround yourself with positive people in your circle. When we are down reassurance is key to know it’ll be okay.
Try new things. You never know if you like something until you try it.
Do the things you love. You already know the feeling you get from that experience and it’s nothing wrong with doing it again.
Take time to reflect. We are always on go that we sometimes forget what just happened which means we didn’t take time to enjoy that moment.
Open yourself up for change. Things can’t stay the same. With the change, we find out new things about ourselves.
Clearly, there are more than ten ways to find your own joy, these are just the few that works for me. Maybe some of these can work for you as well. One of the most valuable lessons I’ve learned to appreciate is change. Coming into 2020 it was a BIG DEAL! It probably was a big deal for you too. One special moment that will be happening this year is my 30th birthday. I bought my plane ticket and I was expecting great things. Unfortunately, my trip won’t be happening but my birthday is still worth celebrating. Even though I can’t travel to my island getaway I can still find pleasures in doing something else such as a photo shoot.
Check out my new vlog. Come along with me while I do my everyday routine but also getting ready for my shoot. I didn’t want to vlog my shoot but I didn’t want to give anything away but I can tell you it’s awesome!
Before going into this post I wanted to take some time and mention I hope you all aren’t taking this content as a distraction from BLM and social inequalities. It’s okay to add in your daily routines and still stand up for the cause. If you haven’t donated and is looking to donate or get more information here are some options:
Aspirers I’ve recently started making sandwiches again. I’ve been trying to stay away from foods with high carbohydrates. One day while in Walmart I came across thinned slice organic bread and I fell in love because it was 14g compared to the 23g that I’m used to eating.
Anyway, I wanted a sandwich that was filling but also not to heavy so I decided to make a MLT. I’ve never had one or heard of it before. Let me tell you if I could only eat one sandwich for the rest of my life this would be it. I’m not exaggerating! This sandwich is that good. If you’re looking for a great vegan option a regular MLT without a fried egg on top will be just as delicious. It’s great for brunch or lunch.
Let’s get into how I made this sandwich.
First you need your fresh vegetables which are shiitake mushrooms, slices of tomatoes, and green leaf lettuce. Also need garlic powder, black pepper, onion powder, your bread of choice, hickory flavor liquid smoke, egg, mayo, and horseradish sauce. Cheese is optional.
To make this sandwich completely vegan purchase vegan cheese, mayo, and horseradish sauce. For your egg there’s an egg substitute brand called Just Egg which you can make a scramble in place of a fried egg.
Next you want to start sautéing your mushroom in the oil of your choice and season with garlic powder, black pepper, and onion powder. You can add as much or as little season that you like. If you like flavor then you’ll want more than a dash. You will have to add additional oil to prevent the seasoning from burning in the pan.
Once the mushrooms are brown push them to the side of the pan to continue cooking on low heat and put a splash of liquid smoke on the mushrooms. As those cook place your bread in the pan to toast.
Once the bread is toasted on the non-toasted side add your mayo with a dash of black pepper and onion powder to your bread.
Now it’s time to fry your egg. I like my egg over medium but you can fry it sunny side up, over hard or whatever you like. If you don’t like eggs you can skip this step too. No need to add any additional seasoning to your egg because there’s still season in the pan from your mushrooms. Also toss your mushrooms to make sure they aren’t burning in the pan.
While your egg is cooking it’s time to add your other vegetables to your sandwich. Lay the lettuce and tomatoes onto both sides of your bread. Then add your horseradish just to one side. If you don’t like horseradish that’s fine you can leave it off and just add more mayo in place. The sauce in the middle will help keep your sandwich toppings in place better. Think of it as the glue for the sandwich.
It’s fine to add your mushrooms. Doesn’t that look delicious? If you want you can eat the sandwich as is and it’s really good but if not let’s add more toppings.
Add cheese on top of your mushrooms. Again you can stop right here and you’ll be happy but if you want a loaded sandwich let’s keep it going.
Let’s add the egg next! Doesn’t this look good!! We’re not done yet because you’re continuing to load this sandwich we’re going to add one more thing.
We’re going to sprinkle a little more cheese! Omg this sandwich is going to be so good!!
Now close that sandwich and cut in half. I cut mind into two triangles but you don’t have to do it like me.
Do you see this SANDWICH! Just look at it. Do you see the layers of flavors? I want to make myself another one because it’s so good. If you want to finish off this meal add a side item. I made a parfait since this is brunch for me but you can do whatever.
I hope you enjoyed this recipe give it a try. Let me know in the comments if you tried it and how did you like it. Don’t forget to like and share. To be the first to know about a new post follow my blog.
Hi, Aspirers today I want to talk about something that will be uncomfortable but it’s necessary. I was brought up in a household of love but living in a society that still has hate in their hearts. Our ancestors fought for our freedom why would we stop? Why should we stop?
Just because someone looks different doesn’t mean they are any less. I love being around people that are different from me because we can educate each other. Hopefully one day our descendants will grow up in a society where they don’t have to protest and riot to be seen as equal. To be treated as a person shouldn’t be a request.
So much has been taken from us and is claimed as someone else’s. This society isn’t justice for all it’s clearly justice for y’all. Being treated fairly shouldn’t be difficult. Those people with hate in their hearts choose to be that way. As easily you can learn hatred you can easily find love. Those that choose to have a hatred heart will be bond to lack empathy, compassion, and love. Why put so much effort into a negative mindset?
There are multiple ways on how you can help out the black community. Our community tends to be used by corporations that benefit themselves by using us as they see fit by taking our culture to turn into dollars but lack consideration for us as people. If you have to reach out to these businesses/corporations to put out statements you clearly can see what they support but still consider reaching out to them to make it known that we see they aren’t taking action and change needs to happen.
Looking to support black businesses in NC check out Official Black Dollar and visit their website to look up black businesses. For a broader search check out Official Black Wall Street to check out a directory for black own businesses in general.
Donate to NC bail support funds TEXT NCSPAN to 22999. NAACP, American Civil Liberties Union, Fair Fight, Know Your Rights Camp, Color of Change, National Bail Out, GoFundMe George Floyd, Campaign Zero, Reclaim the Block, and Unicorn Riot. That’s just to name a few.
Educate yourself by having those uncomfortable conversations. It’s okay to ask questions. How can we fix and issue without having these conversations? We all don’t have the answer but support and understanding each other is important for this change to happen. Want to be able to bring dialogue and have conversations with younger generations here are some books you can read: The Skin I’m In, White Socks Only, One Crazy Summer, The Lions of Little Rock, and All American Boys.
Your vote does matter! Go out and vote for people in office that care about the same injustice as you do.
Lastly, I want to end this post with these powerful quotes.
“Have a vision. Be demanding.” – Colin Powell
“We may encounter many defeats but we must not be defeated.” – Maya Angelou
“The price of hating other human beings is loving oneself less.” – Eldridge Cleaver
“Change will not come if we wait for some other person or some other time. We are the ones we’ve been waiting for. We are the change that we seek.” – Barack Obama
It’s late, I can’t sleep, and a lot is on my mind. When I can’t sleep it’s usually my body telling me something. Once I figure out what that something is I then figure out what needs to be done. Guess what needs to be done? Well, if you read the title then you should already know. I’m going to cut my hair!
I got up grabbed all my hair products and I did just that. I could ramble on and on about this and you could continue reading but luckily I decided to record everything as it was happening.
Scroll down and press play to watch the video. You’ll get to see my transformation of why I decided to cut my hair and see how it all turns out. If you like what you see don’t forget to like and share.
I wanted to something I’ve never done before which may be weird for most because it’s a very common thing. I wanted to overcome this fear and since I had to spend money on it I didn’t want it to waste it. I hope you enjoy it. Don’t forget to click on the YouTube tab in the menu bar and subscribe to my channel.
I just finished watching 5 movies for 31 movies for Halloween! Like I said in my previous post this year I’ll be rating all the movies that I’m watching. I’m rating them on how well it keeps my attention, creativity and psychological factors, scare and thrill factors, gore, and how predictable it is. (Please note for rating how predictable the movie is 1 being very predictable and 5 being very unpredictable.) After I rate them from 1 to 5 I’ll calculate the overall average of the movie for you. Also, I’ve added the trailer of each movie too.
Of course, you can watch these movies before I post my ratings but if not at least you’ll get an idea if a movie is worth watching. Remember these are my opinions for the movies. I might not like them but you could love them.
The movie Annabelle Creation I purchased this movie from Walmart because it was in the $5 and I’ve been wanting to see this so I just bought. For the other movies on this list, you can find them on Netflix.
Hopefully, you take some time a watch a couple of these. If you do, let me know. Don’t forget to follow me on Instagram and you’ll be the first to know which movies I’ve watched before I post it on my blog.
While venturing out earlier today in the middle on old Macau, China I came across this little cinema with their featured showcase “Black Is Beautiful”. This showcase is highlighting popular but impactful movies starring and directed by black people from the 1970s-present day.
Movies: Do The Right Thing, Blackkklansman, Losing Ground, If Beale Street Could Talk, Killer of Sheep, Daughters of the Dust, Fruitvale Station, An Oversimplification of Her Beauty, Chameleon Street and Sorry to Bother You.
This made my day. Since being here I’ve been getting awkward stares from locals that probably never encountered a black person in person before wanting to touch my hair or think I just got off the plane from Africa. Knowing there is a group of people here trying to get our beautiful message across.
Today some of you might be celebrating with your special loved ones either today or maybe later on in the week because it’s hard to stay up past 10:00 pm on a weekday. For myself, I will be spinning time with the one person that means the most to me which is MYSELF. I have no problem with that but for others like myself, some of your friends and family might wonder why are you spending the 6th, 7th, 8th year (who’s really counting anyway) alone on Valentine’s Day. A lot of questions might be asked and the big question on people’s minds is “Are you lonely?”
Guess what that’s a great question. Anyone can be lonely. You could be in a committed relationship, married, or have kids and still feel lonely. The presence of someone else might not define the well-being of your mental state. You can be around someone every day but something feels like something is missing. There are people out in the world that never experienced being alone and still have unanswered questions about themselves because they’ve constantly been around people for so long they haven’t found confidence in their own skin.
For the longest, I was terrified to eat alone because I thought I would be judged of not having anyone to eat or laugh with at the table. I was so uncomfortable being seen by myself. It sounds weird saying that out loud but it was true. I just went to the movies alone for the first time last year and guess what it was AWESOME! I love being alone at home but enjoy my own company in public is on a whole other level. I even walk away from my girls when we are out to use the restroom by myself. Ladies don’t act like you all don’t go to the bathroom in groups especially the college ladies that are reading this right now.
It’s okay to have anxiety but the only way to get over something is to try it. If there’s a new movie out, a new restaurant to try, a new store in the mall that just opened up I can’t wait for other people to make room in their schedule sometimes. I have to enjoy it first and tell them about it later. Being able to find joy in your own company makes it easier to find joy while with others. We have to be honest with ourselves sometimes it’s not the other person that is causing the problem because we might be the problem. Don’t expect others to bring joy into your life if you can’t enjoy yourself.
Ask yourself this question, are you lonely?
Sincerely, Courtney Renee
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