#OOTD & DIY A Scarf Into A Shirt

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Just the other day I went a little over board when I went shoe shopping and bought three pairs of shoes. I have a serious shoe problem! Today I put together an outfit that you can create at home. I hate buying new shoes and not having anything to wear with them and I didn’t want to go out and buy more clothes so I decided to use what I already own which is a scarf. Yes I said it a scarf! I made a little clip for you showing you how I created this shirt in minutes.

(Tip: to make sure the shirt stays in place put double sided tape on the areas you don’t want to show. Around the neck clip in safety pins.)

​(Music: Tini Tempah feat. Zara Larsson-Girls Like)

If you want to recreate this same look here are the places you buy the rest of my outfit.

Jeans:

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Shoes:

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I hope you enjoyed today’s post! Don’t forget to like and share if you want more posts like this one.

Sincerely, Courtney Renee

 

 

#OOTD Monday


For today’s outfit of the day I’m wearing a flowy sayings shirt, high waist jeans, ballerina strappy flat, and old school shades. If you want to recreate this look continue reading to find out where you can find this similar look. 

Shades: 

Charlotte Russe

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Similar shirt: 

Target


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Hey


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High waisted jeans:

Buckle

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Similar Shoes:

Charlotte Russe


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Target


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Sincerely, Courtney Renee

#RelationshipGoals

Happy Valentine’s Day Aspirers!

This day is dedicated to all the lovers everywhere. Another day to show one another how much you truly care for them. For the single people out their like myself this day is dedicated to the love that we have for ourselves…well that’s what I’m doing today. While the lovers are busy loving I wanted to take the time to talk about relationship goals the realistic relationship goals. When most of us aren’t in a relationship we get into the habit of looking into people’s relationship for example a celebrity. We start pointing out the do’s and don’t and create goals for ourselves based off of what we see other people do. I’m not saying that is wrong but what those people are doing might not work for you. So why not focus on what you really want and go from there.

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Right now in my dating life I’m focus was on finding a guy that I can grow and build with someday. I don’t want to come off pushy when getting to know someone but off the bat I want to know if he is on the same page. Such as asking him if a relationship is what he’s looking for at the moment. If he can’t answer my questions or feels overwhelmed with questions like where do you see yourself in 5 years or what’s your religious beliefs then you’re not the one for me.

From my dating experiences I came up with a few things I’m looking for in a guy which are:

  1. Communications!!!: I don’t want to have to pull teeth to get answers. Been there don’t that! When we are together I just want the words to just flow.
  2. Goal-oriented: A lot of people can start something but can they finish what they are doing and plan for the next step.
  3. Profess: Show me that you care and want me!
  4. Loves sports and be active: I’ve never came across a guy that doesn’t like sports and if one comes my way, turn around.
  5. Honesty: Tell me how he feels. No hiding is necessary.
  6. Family-oriented: Not only thinking of himself but others. More of we or us not I. Family as a priority.
  7. Religious beliefs: Being with someone with similar beliefs honestly makes the union between two people stronger.
  8. Motivator: Lift my spirts when I’m down because I’m not always going to be peppy.

I can’t expect all those things from a guy if I don’t have anything to give him in return. Here are a few things I’ll give him in return:

  1. Adaptable: I can adapt in pretty much any situation. Every guy is different and every relationship is too so if I expect the same I’ll get the same results.
  2. Empathic: I always think about us instead of just me.
  3. Planner: You need it done oh I got you with a calendar.
  4. Communication: It takes two to hold a conversation so when you speak I’ll answer.
  5. Active!: I love trying new things and open to learn.
  6. Creative mind: I’ll show you a new way to look at things because change is okay.
  7. Profess: Make you feel important in my life constantly.
  8. Coach and a team player: I’m open to help and lend a helping hand.

Thinking back I was so focus on what I want from him but I needed to show him what he’ll get in return. Actions speaks louder than words so if the person isn’t showing you how you want to be treated even after you explained what you wanted it might not be worth it. Speak up because if the other person don’t know then they won’t do it.

I remember I was dating this one guy years ago we would see each other almost everyday and we would text or call each other daily but one day I didn’t hear from him. Then another day past and I still didn’t hear from him but he decided to post something on Snapchat. I’m over here thinking he died but he’s out having a grand time with friends. Fast forward to when we finally spoke on the phone I asked him something like why didn’t you try to contact me? Were you not thinking of me? His response was no. That hurt so much. It was like everything dropped to the pit of my stomach. To know that I was worrying about him and his well-being and he wasn’t thinking about me at ALL. So of course we ended things.

Clearly we weren’t on the same path. If you’re dating someone and they want to get married one day but you don’t believe in marriage don’t waste their time. We sometimes run into butt hurt people that can’t get over their past relationships and thinks the same result will happen. Trust me the same result will happen if they keep thinking that. If you’re looking for a relationship don’t date someone that is just looking for fun or is confused on what they want they’re probably not ready to date.

The last guy I dated seemed like he wasn’t ready for anything. He didn’t show his true colors until we were dating for a little bit. I would ask him a question and I could tell he was uncomfortable. Like he had to make sure he was going to say the right thing. One night I asked him why haven’t you asked me to be your girlfriend? His response was I don’t know I could but I just haven’t. So why don’t you?, I said. Oh I don’t know, he said. You should already know him and I didn’t last.

Last time I check there isn’t a time machine. You don’t want your time wasted so don’t waste anyone else’s especially if both of you aren’t on the same path. When I’m truly feeling that person I just want to be in their presence even if we’re just sitting and watching TV or driving in silence because I’m comfortable with them. Wouldn’t that be amazing. Be with someone because you want to be with them and you’re truly comfortable giving yourself. Be comfortable with them but at the same time make yimg_6293our days feels like you are meeting them for the first time. I see people married looking tired of each other and I look tired looking at them because I don’t want to be like them. When two people fit perfectly together no matter the differences or disagreements they work it out. Someone once told me “that you need to find someone that will put up with your shit”. Every guy can’t handle me and the right one will day. Just make sure your stuff is clean. Don’t be messy.

Through all your experiences good or bad find what sticks out to you. The good things you remember are the things you want to constantly see in your future relationship. Like if you can pick a good trait from every person you dated and mold into your unique perfect person. Everyone has had hard times but everyone’s hard times are different and so will your turn out. So don’t base other people’s love story as your own. Create your own!

Sincerely, Courtney Renee

The Couple’s Playlist

Hi to all the Aspirers that are in love and preparing for Valentine’s Day next week with your special someone. There is one thing you need that will set the day and night off right. Do you know what that is? Music of course! You could prepare a playlist of your favorite hits so you two can go down memory lane or maybe a playlist to show the other person how much you care. If you don’t have any songs in mind don’t worry  I went ahead and made a playlist just for you to help set the mood. I hope you enjoy! 

Tank: Throwback Love

Beyoncé: Partition 

Silk: Freak Me

Boys 2 Men: I’ll Make Love To You

H-Town: Knockin’ The Boots

Beyoncé: Countdown

Marvin Gaye: Let’s Get It On

Trina feat. Keshia Cole: I Got A Thing For Ya

R. Kelly: Bump N’ Grind

Beyoncé: Dance For You 

John Legend: Stay With You

R. Kelly: Seems Like You’re Ready

R. Kelly: Feeling On Your Booty

Alina Barez and Galimatias: Make You Feel

Faith Evans: Soon As I Get Home

James Arthur: Say You Won’t Let Go

Jesse Powell: You

Minnie Riperton: Lovin’ You

Janet Jackson: That’s The Way Love Goes

Mariah Carey: Dreamlover 

(Sources: videos are all from YouTube)

Sincerely, Courtney Renee

Single On Valentine’s Day Ideas

Don’t let Valentine’s Day be the day you sit around and become bored because you’re single. Valentine’s Day is about love so why not treat yourself and show yourself how much you love yourself and maybe others too. 

Here are some single Valentine’s Day ideas: 

  1. Go to the movies.  
  2. Have and dinner and a movie night at your place. Create a menu and pop in a RedBox movie. I love a good horror movie. 
  3. Head to the spa. You’ve had a rough day or year so why not get pampered. 
  4. Go to the park and have a panic and read your favorite book.
  5. Hang out with other single friends and have fun like you normally would if it wasn’t Valentine’s Day. 
  6. Take a day trip some where. I love a good museum. 
  7. Spend time with family. That’s where you’ll find unconditional love. 
  8. Go the a pet store and play with some puppies. Animals doesn’t know what day it is. All they want is love and playtime. 
  9. Buy yourself a gift because you’ve  earned it!
  10. Go out and hit the town. Don’t stay home and waste your night away! Let the world know you look GOOD! 

These are just a few ideas but if you have more feel free to share in the comment section below. 

Sincerely, Courtney Renee 

Shop Local: Liberation Threads

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This past weekend I had the opportunity to attend an event at Liberation Threads which is a fair trade and American made boutique in Durham, North Carolina. At this particular event Rebecca the owner wanted to highlight Nepal this month and give her customers 30% off of all Nepal made products.

Opening a fair trade and American made boutique was dream of Rebecca’s for awhile and her and her husband came together to make Rebecca’s dream a reality. Liberation Threads has only been open for about two months and from what I saw and overheard at the event I can see Liberation Threads customer base isn’t going anywhere but up. Rebecca wanted to make the products affordable for her customers with the price point going no higher than $200. Everything that was displayed in the store had a feeling of reason and purpose.

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One piece that stood out to me was a t-shirt saying “Be you”. I took that simple messaged and relayed it to my life and my future goals because for you to get where you want to go you have to be yourself. While talking to Rebecca she’s soft spoken but her responses came across so clear and you can hear the passion she has for Liberation Threads from the product knowledge to greeting her customers that comes into the boutique. I’m excited to see what the future brings from Rebecca and Liberation Threads. If you’re ever in Durham, North Carolina go check out Liberation Threads at 405 E Chapel Hill St Durham, NC 27701 United States . In early February Liberation Threads will be launching their e-commerce site. In the meantime check them out on their Instagram @liberationthreads

I hope you enjoyed this month’s Shop Local feature and if you want to be feature as a local shop or featured in general feel free to contact me. In the meantime check out the additional pictures I took at Liberation Threads down below.

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Sincerely, Courtney Renee

Self Image Workshop

Ladies this is one event you don’t want to miss out. Jovanhanna from Positive Forward Movement and I have teamed up to create a workshop to make YOUR inner and outer beauty shine! Spaces will be limited and we want to get the word out NOW. Email us for questions and to sign up to our mailing list. More information on its way.