Aspirers let’s take a moment to reflect on how 2016 was for you. Think about all the good you done and all the bad. Don’t lie and say “I’ve been a perfect little angel” because no one is perfect. I don’t mind going first and being honest. One thing I’ve noticed about six or seven months ago was catching myself was being negative. I didn’t realize it was problem until one day I came to the conclusion that things weren’t falling into place. Something was going on around me and I pinpointed it to my negative ways. I wasn’t being negative towards others (well I hope not) but when something was told to me by certain people I pointed out their flaws A LOT. I came to the conclusion to push out the negativity and not talk about it especially when the issues wasn’t towards me or what I was doing. I’ve noticed when I point out the negatives the feeling creeps back up again and the cycle continues. If there is a negative thought in my head I stop and pray for God to push it off of me. Guess what he pushed it off and I stopped thinking about it. This wasn’t an over night solution but soon after I started seeing results and success happening in my life because I saw things in a more positive light. We never know how negativity effects us until we decide to do something about it.
Can you point out your bad ways? Are you open to changing it? Will you change it? Leave your comments below. I’m going to revisit this topic again because we all don’t need to bring negativity in the new year.
Sincerely, Courtney Renee
I found this Christmas tag from Meg Taylor. I’ve never done a tag so I thought why not do one for 25 days of blogging!
1. What is your favorite Christmas tradition?
A: Open gifts on Christmas Eve
2. Where do you spend Christmas?
A: With my family
3. Do you decorate before or after Thanksgiving?
A: After sometimes the week before Christmas lol
4. Tinsel or garland?
A: Tinsel of course. It’s too much green if I used garland.
5. Who are you most excited to see this Christmas season?
A: It’s not who it’s what and it’s my bed lol
6. Do you own an ugly Christmas sweater?
A: I think my ugly sweaters are ugly but when I wear them people like them. I’ve never won an ugly sweater contest and I try so hard.
Keep a look out for part 2 tomorrow.
Sincerely, Courtney Renee
I hope you all are having a wonderful holiday. If your celebrating with family, friends, or if your alone for the holidays just remember we all have things to be thankful for. Nothing is too small.
I’m thankful for the people that enter into my life even the ones that had to go. There is a reason for everything. I’m thankful for waking up this morning. I’m thankful for my accomplishments I’ve made and for the ones that are coming my way. I am most thankful for you God for allowing me to be me. Allowing me to be myself but at the same time grow into a better person everyday. Thank you!
What are you thankful for? Share below.
Sincerely, Courtney Renee
As you been reading my posts for the “Loveless Series” I hope it’s an enjoyable series and your following along by answering the questions to yourself honestly. These are the questions I’ve had and are still answering for myself. We all can choose to continue the same path and decide not to try to progress or move forward and figure out ways to better yourself. The type of person I am I like to put somethings into my own hands like trying to find the right person. As I can see that’s not working out for me because I end up disappointing myself for
- Going after the wrong guy
- The wrong guy is going for me and I’m not focusing on the hints to leave him ALONE.
If that’s the case we need to dig deep down inside ourselves and say is okay he isn’t for me. Just like in my post “In Love with “Love”” I said “I figured out not to settle just because I’m lonely”. If that person isn’t for you and you know it say BYE. When we are focusing on the wrong things we’re missing out on the right.
After bad relationships and failed thought that could be relationships I start to wonder if love is for me. Is it meant for me? Does God have a bigger purpose? Do I have to sign up to go on a love reality show? I’m doubting myself because
- I know my worth
- I know the challenges I’ve face
- I’ve overcame them because I know every man out there isn’t the same
After knowing all of that insecurities start to set in and we all start to compare. Well I know I feel that way. Such as am I pretty enough? Looks are the first thing people notice. Do I not give a good first impression? I’m I too forceful for what I want? So many things continuously run through my mind because I want to give love and I want to receive it.
I’m going to end this post right here because next week the topic is “Preparing HIM for HER” which will help tie in what you’re reading now. Stay tune.
Here’s a new blog series I’ve started up called the “Loveless Series” every Wednesday. What a better way to talk about love then on hump day? Each week there will be different topics based off of what a lot of us have or is currently going through. I’m putting my experiences and feelings onto these pages. I’m making myself vulnerable because these are questions I’ve asked myself and I bet you or someone you know have too. What I want everyone to get out of this series is a better understanding of themselves and what they want from a relationship. Before you say anything like “hold up is Courtney Renee even in a relationship?”. I never said I was but the things I’ve learned from my pass keeps me going on what my future will bring. I figured out not to settle just because I was lonely. You want to compliment each other not discourage each other. We are constantly asking questions either to ourselves, to someone else, or to God (if you’re religious). Also in the series as you read there will be questions for you to take a second and reflect on yourself. I hope you enjoy and welcome to the “Loveless Series”.
In Love with “Love”
Growing up I loved watching movies about weddings and love stories. I dreamed that one day that will be me. I just knew it. I even created a wedding book when I was 15 years old. In the book I drew and designed my wedding dress, how I wanted my hair, colors, bridesmaids, and flower girl dresses. I looked up how much my dream wedding ring will cost ($30,000 from Tiffany’s). I feel like I’m worth it! I even picked out my future husband’s ring because I knew who ever he was going to be he was going to be worth it. The only thing missing from my book was HIM. My book can’t be complete. As time passed and boyfriends came and went I realized I haven’t met the one or when I think I met the one something goes wrong. When it happened multiple times I started thinking is it me.
Q: Have you thought about that? You’re the common denominator of these relationships so what am I doing wrong?
Years ago I told myself I wanted to be married, engaged, or in a series relationship by 25 well that came and went too. Around 22 something hit me and said “Courtney stop searching because all you’re doing is finding disappointment.” So I listened and stopped dating for a year to figure out what I wanted out of life and stopped comparing myself to others relationships. Relationships are hard and the people we are comparing ourselves to might not be perfect so we have to check ourselves. Before we can be right for someone else we have to right for ourselves.
Once the year was over and got back on the dating scene but like I said I didn’t go out looking if it happens it happens. Yes I want to get married but I’m not the type to say if I’m in a relationship for a year I’m expecting a ring for our anniversary. We have no idea where we’re going to be in a year. So how do you expect your other half to know they are really ready to put a ring on your finger in a year? For some love happens at first sight but for others it might take a little longer. One thing I’ve learned from that year of being by myself is growth and wanting to grow with someone. If that person isn’t willing to grow with you things shift in a relationship. From being by ourselves we’ll understand what we want to give to others based off what you want to get in return. It’s a give a take but try not to keep a tally.
Q: Do you give to get something in return? Are you always the one to be getting something verses giving? Are you always giving?
Just like the title of this post “In Love with “Love”” you have to be willing to give love to retrieve it and stop thinking of it as an idea and more like an action. For you to love “love” you have to love yourself.
Throughout your reading I hope you took the time and truly answered these questions. Share your answers below and don’t forget to like this post if you’re excited about “Loveless Series” every Wednesday and maybe throughout this series we’ll all find out more about ourselves and love will come our way.
Keep an eye out for next week’s topic “Opening My Heart for More”.
Sincerely, Courtney Renee