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Preparing Him For Her

Hi Aspirers!

Hopefully you read “Trusting God & Wondering If Love Is A Part Of My Timeline” because this is the continuation. If you haven’t read the post go read it now!

Let’s get into it. One statement from the previous post I wrote was “Is love suppose to be in my life or is my purpose something else?” One thing a lot of us do is look at our exes or people we’ve dated Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, etc. Which can be a bad thing. When I see how their relationship is blooming I start to think. To be honest I’m really happy for them being able to find that one but a part of me wonders how can he have such a great relationship and doing all the things I’ve asked him and wanted with her. Am I just a stepping stone? Have you ever wondered that? Is my purpose just to be the woman to prepare him for his soulmate? Am I the lesson? Am I the women to be wrong with so when I’m fed up with you, you realized you messed up so bad you have a “come to Jesus meeting” and do right to the next women.

Reading this from a readers viewpoint or someone that is in a relationship have some things that could be floating in your head right now. Is this author being salty that he moved on? Maybe she needs to be comfortable in her skin because if she was like me she would know you are perfect the way you are? You know things like that. The answer to those questions are yes I can be salty but I am confident in myself. I tend to be the alpha female when it comes to my relationships. Not saying I always have to be in charge but if the man isn’t showing control or taking the lead sometimes, I will. Maybe for not being with them I am winning because they couldn’t rise in the relationship with me. Being a alpha female will be another topic on it’s own.

When I’m being nosey and I just admitted that I’m nosey. It’s human nature to wonder if they are happy and wondering why he didn’t do the things like that for me based off how he is portraying it on his social posts. Yes social media can be a problem but social media will always be here and it’s not going anywhere. Telling someone not to take social media so personal is wrong because our profiles are personals. Online we express our thoughts, feeling, and photos of things and people we show affection to. Even though I not physically next to any of my exes doesn’t mean I don’t see some aspect of their lives. He wants to share because one it’s another way to profess his feelings. Therefore you express your feeling just by what you see. My action for that is to stop looking on their profiles and/or delete them! Looking at them brings up feeling you shouldn’t have because that person isn’t thinking about you. They moved on and so should we all.

There are multiple reasoning on why relationships fail maybe it was the timing or maybe someone wasn’t really ready to be in the relationship. Either way you and me, me and you didn’t work. Dwelling on it is way too stressful. When we’re happy I mean truly happy all we’ll be thinking about is how great your special someone is.

I really hope you’re enjoying my Loveless Series. Don’t forget to like this post if you loved reading it and you’re excite for more. Share this post if you want to. Talk to you all soon.

Sincerely, Courtney Renee



Who said blogging isn’t hard work? 

Most people probably have no idea what bloggers have to do to run a blog and keep the their readers interested. Today I sat down and wrote out all the social media sites and network platforms I am a part of and I realized that’s why I get overwhelmed sometimes. 

Here is all of my social media and blog networks: 

  • WordPress (DUH)
  • Facebook 
  • Twitter 
  • Instagram (personal @_cocorenee)  
  • Instagram (@aspire_oneself)
  • Bloglovin
  • Tumblr


  • TriFabb
  • BLMgirls
  • EtailPR 

Once my laptop gets fix AGAIN I want to start back on my YouTube channel for my blog. You know what’s crazy this isn’t all the sites bloggers use. 

Bloggers and Vloggers aren’t lying when we say it takes hard, long hours over time before we see success. Before you decided to become a blogger or vlogger make sure it’s something you are really interested about it not for the hype. Behind a great blog/vlog is a writer, copywriter, PR, marketer, publicist, content creator, director, photographer, videographer, etc. When starting out all those roles are run by The blog creator. 

Aspire Oneself blog started out as a hobby that turned into a lot of hard work but I love it! I self taught myself how to do so many things and I wouldn’t have learned it if I didn’t start Aspire Oneself blog. 

I hope you continue reading my blog because there is A LOT coming for #aspireoneself2016 

Sincerely, Courtney Renee

Also, fellow bloggers/Vloggers let me know what social media apps and networks you are a part of. Comment below or send me a message here

Building A Brand

Ten years ago it was harder to build a brand compared to now. Social media is one of the main reasons people and companies can grow so fast. Social media is a great way to get people’s attention without leaving your house, city, and/or state. Everyone wants great exposure for FREE and having social media accounts are FREE. YouTube became a business and a fun hobby to show people their talents. Instagram is a way to show off your photogenic side and to expand clips and pictures of what you are about.

Behind all the social media there is YOU. To make people listen and view your site or videos you will have to show them your personality and your confidence. Your viewers or followers will be able to relate to your content and you. At the end of the day people are just people no matter if they are the President of the United States or the so-called Tumblr Famous. These people portrayed themselves to attract people and made themselves likeable.

To build your brand you have to believe in what you are trying to do. If you believe it, so will others. Haven’t you seen an infomercial about people being so clumsy they had to buy a specific AS SEEN ON TV product to fix the problem. We know it’s not as extreme as how the actor portrayed the situation but how they expressed the need of the product it made the viewer wonder “WOW I think I need that.” The customer might not need the product at all but the way they showed the product made you drive to the store to purchase it.

The secret formula to build your brand is:


I know I want to have fun doing what I love.

Sincerely, Courtney Renee

Internet vs Real Life: Business Edition

It’s 2014 and everyone including our grandparents has a social media account. If your family has an account you should already know your Employers are members of one or multiple social media accounts. The topic of this discussion is “Should you separate your internet life from your real life with your coworkers?”

When starting out at a new job we are open to new beginnings, changes, and friendships. How can you go to work everyday without building some kind of bond with your coworkers? Sometimes you even take your work friends out of the office to socialize. Years ago people would just exchange phone numbers and emails so they could continue to communicate outside of work. Today we ask for Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, LinkedIn, etc. Don’t forget we all have smartphones attached to our hips and we are constantly taking pictures and videos and uploading them to our accounts. We allow complete strangers know where, what, and who we are with at all times. We have turned into a walking GPSs. How do you decide what pictures and posts are okay for friends, family, and/or coworkers to see?

Social media sites gives us options to make profiles, posts, and pictures to become private to whom we want to view them. If you have to start monitoring who can see what then why post something inappropriate in the first place? Young people now – including myself, have the mindset of being young and it’s okay to do certain things people who came before us did the same thing. People before us didn’t have access to the internet like we do today. Image is very important because we wouldn’t want the wrong image to portray us for life. One post or picture could prevent us from getting a job, get us fired, or hurt someone’s feelings. Social media sites aren’t going away and more are being created.

Here are some tips on how to separate internet from real life:

  • Make your profiles private
  • Don’t use your real name or professional emails on social media sites. This will make it harder for certain people to find you.
  • Don’t connect your personal profile to your professional profile. You made separate profiles for a reason.
  • Ask the people you are taking pictures with if it’s okay to post their pictures on the internet. They care about their image too.
  • Don’t talk about social media sites at work if there is something inappropriate or private you wouldn’t want them to see.

If you have anymore tips or advice you would like to share please comment below.


Sincerely, Courtney Renee